Getting the Support You Need
I feel so blessed! I have recently found a spiritual and emotional guide that is a real heavyweight. I know and trust implicitly that whatever I bring to the table, she is skilled at helping me work through. I can lean into her wisdom, let go into her objectivity and soften into the loving truth that she brings out in me. I believe her when she say’s “truth is her highest calling” and I feel her strength and devotion at helping others discover what “truth” is for them. She is merciless in this effort and her blatant honesty is refreshing and bold. It challenges me and stretches me and shines a light into the dark hidden corners of my past. And, in my work with her, I feel alive and real and seen and heard……yes of course by her, but mostly by myself!
I have spent many transformative years of my life experimenting with different forms of healing modalities including: therapy, breath work, meditation, yoga, coaching, hypnotherapy, acupuncture, cranial sacral work, clairvoyance and other age old practices of various forms and I just have to say, without a skillful guide, without someone to help us navigate and move through our “stuff”, we can so easily become stagnant, fall back into our well worn grooves, and remain closed off from our own personal magnificence.
Life is change and true to life, our need, desire or call for personal growth changes too. At times life can be so challenging we have no option but to do whatever it takes to get out of our own way. It’s crucial to discover how our conditioned behaviors (i.e. pride, ego, stubbornness, etc.) sabotage our goals and deliver us right into the seat of pain, suffering and confusion. At other times, employing skills we’ve learned, life seems to be going along pretty well and the call for deep personal transformation tapers off. And if you’re like me, if you feel your way through the world, if you have mind/body awareness and are conscious of your interactive role with everything around you, this is the dance you’ll dance throughout your life. Ebbing and flowing to the sound of the call within – “stretch this way, now that; bend here, now there; look under this rock, now that one” – and to answer this call is not only courageous, it is the true honoring of the divine. It is why we are here.
At one point in my life I was naive enough to think that if I just got through this one problem, or over this one hurdle, or through this deep pain, I’d have it all figured out and it would be smooth sailing from there on out. But of course, how silly! Instead, the complete opposite is true. What I’ve come to learn and embrace over the years is that we are very complex beings and as soon as one layer is peeled back, a vulnerability revealed, a wound healed, another layer stands in it’s place. Layers upon layers just waiting for our attention. Waiting to be acknowledged, purged or realigned. The truth of the matter is, the learning never ends!
We are organic beings forever changing and while our protective layers need peeling, we are continually growing and adding to the complexity of our nature. In the same way no single experience can be repeated twice due to the multitude of factors involved and the unpredictable nature of these factors, we too are never the same from one day to the next, one year to the next, or even one moment to the next. Our true nature may remain the same but our experience with the world around us and our interpretation of that world is forever in a state of flux.
Due to the continual development of our beings, it’s ever more important to have the assistance of a professional coach or guide if you’re wanting to embrace fully the life you have been given. With help and willingness on your part, you have the chance to maximize your meaning, joy and sense of purpose during whatever time you have left. It is never too late to approach this deep spiritual work but for your own benefit, the sooner the better.
Questions that come to my own mind when deciding if it’s a good time for assistance are this:
- Am I applying old strategies to new problems?
- Are my old patterns coming back to haunt me?
- Am I being reactive to life rather than intentionally contouring it?
- What things do I need to accept and move on?
- What changes am I going through now that could use some new perspective?
- How have my priorities changed over time?
- What truths are before me that I’m unskilled at facing on my own?
- Where is my resistance showing up?
- What skills or assets of mine do I want to polish at this stage in my life?
- Do I like who I’ve become and/or do I like who I’m becoming?
- How do I want to spend the next 10 years of my life?
These are all large and important questions to be asking and if you’re awake and alive and over 40, you probably should be asking them!
If you’re looking for guidance and aren’t already working with someone you love, call me. In my Coaching work I help people to enhance and enrich their lives and to answer questions such as these. I work with people in the way my own coach works with me – through truth, honesty and compassion, only, I can’t really be this person for myself. Whatever the case, I encourage you to reach out and get the guidance you need. It will invigorate your entire being and help to keep your joyful light shining bright!
“True Morality consists not in following the well-beaten track, but in finding out the true path for ourselves and in fearlessly following it.” —Mahatma Gandhi